tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30819742.post3453506710563300208..comments2024-03-27T13:58:06.458+05:30Comments on Suvro Chatterjee bemused: No women, please, I am an MCPSuvro Chatterjeehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01027202980259279420noreply@blogger.comBlogger59125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30819742.post-48614852986393437422013-06-24T21:59:18.206+05:302013-06-24T21:59:18.206+05:30...and, though this is three months down the line,......and, though this is three months down the line, I cannot resist the temptation to post the following link here, it is so much in context, and so much in consonance with what I have been saying:<br /><br />http://www.telegraphindia.com/1130623/jsp/7days/story_17038224.jsp#.Ucgv9jujzwNSuvro Chatterjeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01027202980259279420noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30819742.post-15942163398280809462013-03-10T17:30:31.187+05:302013-03-10T17:30:31.187+05:30I didn't know much about Ms. Mayer until you s...I didn't know much about Ms. Mayer until you sent that link, Debotosh (beyond her Google background and recently being appointed CEO of Yahoo!, that is), but I checked up the entry in wikipedia, and I liked her clear, short and simple list of priorities - 'God, family and Yahoo, in that order'. May she stick to it; she seems to be a deep and wise woman, not merely a geek (a type that I more than faintly despise, by the way, male or female). <br /><br />Good to hear that she, too, doesn't have much time to spare for traditional chip-on-the-shoulder feminists. And also that, like Indira Gandhi and Agatha Christie, Cherie Blair and J.K. Rowling, she has been able to find time for a great career alongside family life and spiritual interests. I cannot ask for a better deal for my own daughter.<br /><br />Another very politically incorrect observation for now: the great majority of women, <i>like the great majority of men,</i> simply have neither the IQ nor the energy nor the guts nor the ambition to make it big in life. They become feminists when they begin to sniff a chance of getting things made easy for them by claiming to be 'deserving' of special privileges simply because they are female. Not an accident that most feminists are pretty ugly to look at, too, besides getting old...Suvro Chatterjeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01027202980259279420noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30819742.post-75936002886731702062013-03-08T21:44:28.657+05:302013-03-08T21:44:28.657+05:30Sir,
Marissa Mayer's referral to feminists as...Sir, <br />Marissa Mayer's referral to feminists as 'drag' nicely vindicates the points that you have mentioned in this blog-spot and in the subsequent comments.<br /><br />http://www.slate.com/blogs/xx_factor/2013/02/27/marissa_mayer_says_she_s_not_a_feminist_in_pbs_makers_documentary.htmlDebotoshhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09612292375366632146noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30819742.post-3630779315797434862013-01-24T16:51:18.973+05:302013-01-24T16:51:18.973+05:30It wasn't always like that, Vaishnavi. I have ...It wasn't always like that, Vaishnavi. I have read many a great writer, in Bangla, English, Hindi and French, who, despite being female themselves, and even while criticizing men (quite deservingly) for myriad faults, never shied away from acknowledging that a lot of women have a lot of characteristics to be ashamed of, and would do well to reform themselves. Today's 'mod' woman, by contrast, suffers primarily from a brittle ego, and so lives in denial: only such people are good and worth listening to who bash men blindly and praise women without reserve. <br /><br />If you have read the post carefully and all the comments so far, you couldn't have failed to notice three things: a) I have still insisted I shall always have the deepest sympathy for women who really suffer (at the hands of women as much as men); b) there are many women I admire (though few in my contemporary milieu, for reasons I have sought to make clear, and which have not been challenged with facts and logic), and c) my personal experience with females has been by and large very bad, despite my having tried to go out of my way to be good to them for years and years. So if today I have ended up to be a crabby woman-hater (though you know only too well how ready and eager I am to make exceptions for those who deserve it),I don't think I have any reason to be apologetic about it. In connection with the recent post titled 'Wrapped up kids' on my other blog, it remains a matter of fact till date that girls in general are pampered far more, scolded far less and <i>never</i> beaten in my class; and despite that, it is the boys who keep getting back. As I said before, girls must be remarkably stupid to expect to be praised more afterwards because they have given back much less! In private conversation, I can tell you about literally dozens of girls about whom my only regret today is that I ever thought of them as anything more than monthly envelopes, and I promise you you will wonder how I can still talk decently with the girls in my current classes after having been treated to so much unkindness and ingratitude for so long.<br />SirSuvro Chatterjeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01027202980259279420noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30819742.post-44642577183176617812013-01-23T13:07:14.882+05:302013-01-23T13:07:14.882+05:30Oh yes Sir, I have come across many girls in schoo...Oh yes Sir, I have come across many girls in school as well as college who shoplifted stuff just for the "lark" of it. I am in complete agreement with what you say Sir; somewhere along the way, our society seems to hide behind the male/female tags rather than give merit to people for what they are, irrespective of their gender. Most women I have come across keep extremely messy households and do not bother to think twixe about littering. Men also for that matter, but why do women who hold up the cry of feminism gloss over all these faults? The sad truth is is that even among sex workers there will be the stories of women accomplices who have forced them into the profession.<br /><br />Regards,<br />VaishnaviVaishnavihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08829055456233904866noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30819742.post-1331156829401355642013-01-16T13:19:10.902+05:302013-01-16T13:19:10.902+05:30Thank you, Vaishnavi.
Let me in this context men...Thank you, Vaishnavi. <br /><br />Let me in this context mention two very politically incorrect things that I have noticed happening recently. One: the local Big Bazaar outlet has started sealing women's handbags before customers can enter; this is because, the securitymen explained, women (and few of them poor and needy) are the most common shoplifters, and their capacious handbags were being used too often to shove stolen knick-knacks into. Two: while stopping at a Sulabh paid toilet off a national highway recently, we noticed a 'posh' woman being scolded by the (female-) attendant for being uncouth enough to relieve herself on the floor, despite a WC being available. The same attendant, after cleaning up, grumblingly told me it's a daily nuisance. My daughter has repeatedly told me how callous her school authorities - all female - are about keeping the toilets clean. <br /><br />These are big numbers of females we are talking about here: when generalizations are made (such as how women are always being ill-treated by men), such broad, highly visible and undeniable facts can only be ignored by 'feminists' who cannot see anything wrong with themselves. If women are shoplifters and toilet-soilers in large numbers, that too has got to be the fault of a 'male-dominated' society.Suvro Chatterjeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01027202980259279420noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30819742.post-86851953249187729542013-01-09T20:42:46.533+05:302013-01-09T20:42:46.533+05:30Dear Sir,
I left a comment on Pupu's blog pos...Dear Sir,<br /><br />I left a comment on Pupu's blog post 'Musings and a Merry Christmas' on a similar subject and I firmly retain those opinions. Yes, most females that I have come in contact with fit the exact category that you abhor. I am looked upon as somewhat of a loner just because I prefer being alone rather than spend a minute in their company. These are the girls who instagram their own faces onto Facebook several times a week, think rarely, if ever, of anything beyond superfluous interests. The intent of most of my peers (we are all now in our mid twenties) is to "bag the next eligible bachelor who comes along", silently counting up the gold that their parents give them and spend all their money on buying just the right bag, or glasses or whatever. A small example would be how few females I actually see these days in bookstores, while the MAC counter at a big mall here is loaded to the brim whenever I pass by. Their own lives become a lot more important until they lose all sight of anything or anyone other than whom they are very directly related to. I am not saying I have not made mistakes, God knows I have made plenty, and shall probably make many more; as a girl but more as a human being who is possession of all her mental faculties, I have to admit, that what you say is the absolute truth. This is one of the main reasons that the only "girl" friends I have, I made at the age of five and I stoutly refuse to increase that paltry number (the number being three). The lack of empathy or common sense and a deep ignorance of pretty much everything that goes on around them except for Bollywood, makes most females a complete pain to be around. I am yet to find a female who is not one of the original three or my mother with whom I can hold an intelligent conversation, so go figure.<br /><br />Regards,<br />Vaishnavi Vaishnavihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08829055456233904866noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30819742.post-5144200701474284322012-12-04T12:46:57.196+05:302012-12-04T12:46:57.196+05:30I recently dismissed a fifteen year old girl from ...I recently dismissed a fifteen year old girl from my class. Painful, and never done in haste, but this is the sort of thing that a conscientious teacher has to do now and then.<br /><br />I was going to deal with Keats' poem <i>La Belle Dame sans Merci</i> (look it up, please). I began with an elaborate preamble, apologizing in advance by saying that while explaining it I'll perforce have to deal with the fact that the poet has given a stern warning to sensitive and romantic young men against getting emotionally entangled with pretty young things, who can sometimes be very scheming and hard-hearted, and who enjoy making trophies out of breaking men's hearts. The poet's opinion, not mine, I added, and also said this is not a universal generalization about the badness of women; they could look up a poem by Browning in their own anthology titled <i>Porphyria's Lover</i> which deals with how sick some men in love can be. I even told them when earlier batches had Browning's <i>Last Duchess</i> in their syllabus, I had taken equal pains to point out that while some men could be that monstrous, all men should not be assumed to be guilty of the same sickness by nature. I was about to proceed with the detailed explanation of the poem in question, when this girl piped up to complain that I always spoke badly about girls/women. The whole batch got a tongue-lashing then about how important it is to listen before opening one's mouth, and afterwards I told the girl that if, despite all my efforts, she insisted on holding such an opinion of me, the best thing she could do was to quit - which, thankfully, she did. <br /><br />I checked with many girls in the same batch, including some in her own school and class, and they told me that she had always been like that, a diehard 'feminist' who simply refuses to hear that there can be anything at all wrong with females.<br /><br />I can tolerate fools at that age, but I draw the line with females who are twenty or thirty years older, and haven't matured one whit. Suvro Chatterjeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01027202980259279420noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30819742.post-23308128511050183582012-07-27T11:56:59.821+05:302012-07-27T11:56:59.821+05:30Suvro Sir,
Thanks for the long explanation; and ...Suvro Sir, <br /><br />Thanks for the long explanation; and thanks also for persisting with this fool...who failed to see the whole picture...Sayan Dattahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10471336056338860961noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30819742.post-6594814589467317182012-07-27T10:09:42.555+05:302012-07-27T10:09:42.555+05:30You might be surprised, Sayan, but I actually have...You might be surprised, Sayan, but I actually have an enormous amount of sympathy for the kind of women who were traditionally and for a very very long time condemned and sneered at with the word 'slut'. Women throughout the ages, especially among the subaltern categories, have been subjected to unspeakable deprivation and humiliation simultaneously, which makes me deeply ashamed on behalf of the male half of the species. All my ridicule and invective is targetted at the newly emergent class of highly privileged, pampered, lazy and irresponsible females from so-called good families who have always got the best out of life, given back very little in return, and constantly blame the fact of not having managed to become successful, prominent, independent achievers on what they call male-domination. As I have said before, the typical feminist today will blame everything on the men, even the weather - which is why feminism has become a joke in many circles, and high-achieving women as a rule try hard to avoid the tag now. <br /><br />On the other hand, personally I have no issues with women who have nothing called taste, and would like to claim equality by doing in public the nastiest and ugliest things that men habitually do... why only limit ourselves to clothes? If men pick their noses, so shall we, why not? My only point is that such women cannot simultaneously claim that they have a 'right' to my respect, too. Their right to act like riff-raff, my right to mock at them, that's democracy. I wonder why <i>that</i> should make a lot of women so angry!Suvro Chatterjeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01027202980259279420noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30819742.post-72998830341995353572012-07-26T23:16:38.341+05:302012-07-26T23:16:38.341+05:30Sir,
I believe this didn't escape your notice...Sir,<br /><br />I believe this didn't escape your notice when it happenned -<br /> <br />http://www.telegraph.co.uk/health/women_shealth/8510743/These-slut-walk-women-are-simply-fighting-for-their-right-to-be-dirty.html<br /><br />How little we know about the liberation of women!!Sayan Dattahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10471336056338860961noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30819742.post-70345956934451493242012-07-24T05:06:30.012+05:302012-07-24T05:06:30.012+05:30Dear Sir,
I read in the newspaper today that thre...Dear Sir,<br /><br />I read in the newspaper today that three men died protecting their girlfriends in the recent horrifying Colorado shooting incident. Out of the twelve people killed in this ghastly massacre, these three young men died while shielding their girlfriends from gunshots. The reason I bring this up is to point out that there are still plenty of brave, decent and caring men out there. So women/girls who continuously insist on saying "all men are the same" or "all men are pigs" need to open their eyes to reality, that is only if they have not been blinded already by irrational hatred and prejudice. Also, please note that there is no news which reports a woman taking a bullet for her husband/boyfriend. Tells us something, doesn't it?<br /><br />Thanks,<br />JoydeepJoydeephttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03002902225511574873noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30819742.post-39463731559210146432012-07-21T12:18:37.467+05:302012-07-21T12:18:37.467+05:30Now this post has made it to the top-ten! Women - ...Now this post has made it to the top-ten! Women - mostly women in this case, I am sure - are far more eager to see what I have said <i>against</i> their kind than how I have praised some of them (not <b>one</b> of the tributes I have written about women I admire has ever entered the 'most-read' list). The longer you live, the more certain you become about what people are <i>really</i> like!Suvro Chatterjeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01027202980259279420noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30819742.post-27432356469990286692012-07-16T22:07:45.837+05:302012-07-16T22:07:45.837+05:30And now, to remind everybody about the title of th...And now, to remind everybody about the title of this post, which a lot of people seem to have forgotten: it's "No women please, I am an MCP". So no more comments from girls/women except those who like me that way.<br /><br />I hate to hear from people who simply refuse to listen to what I am saying, and keep repeating like a litany things I have myself said before. In this instance, that's 'men can be bad too', and 'but there are good women around too'. Everybody has a threshold of boredom; I have crossed mine.<br /><br />And I hate to state the obvious, but it's my blog after all, so my rules.Suvro Chatterjeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01027202980259279420noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30819742.post-88952633837999479732012-07-16T20:58:29.332+05:302012-07-16T20:58:29.332+05:30Sumitha, thanks, but this was not really a respons...Sumitha, thanks, but this was not really a response to my last comment, only to what I had said about you!<br /><br />This is getting to be a thankless exercise, so after this I shall stop repeating myself. Of course I know that decent and even admirable women exist; I have written about some in this blog itself (which you seem to be determined to ignore), and I have a mental list of a few to whom I am eternally grateful. That does not change one iota the fact that <b>in my experience</b> over a lifetime (buttressed by what my wife of 44 and daughter of 15 have acquired), decent men are far easier to find. As I have explained, with many specific examples in my previous comments, including the last one. So let's stop arguing over this now. I accept that you have met a LOT of nice women; <i>please accept that I haven't, and don't see any likelihood of meeting many in the future.</i> You will grant that I have both a right and a duty to be guided in my own life by my own remembered and reasoned experience...and writing things on the basis of that experience. I am sorry if that sounds a little off-putting, but I am beginning to grow a little tired now.Suvro Chatterjeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01027202980259279420noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30819742.post-51114054791247199112012-07-16T18:43:23.828+05:302012-07-16T18:43:23.828+05:30comment continued:
More recently, i.e. this last...comment continued:<br /><br /><br />More recently, i.e. this last weekend, I met my mom's dearest friend from our Durgapur days after a very long time, and she showered me with so much love and affection, that I felt reassured that there is a lot of hope for mankind because human beings still care for one another.<br /><br />So yes, these women showed me at various stages in my life that life is much more than just I, Me, Myself and I think they deserve my respect for who they are and what they have done for me. For me, they are living examples of "A friend in need is a friend indeed."<br /><br />Regards,<br />SumithaSumithahttp://sumbit.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30819742.post-46868230849481777252012-07-16T18:42:04.013+05:302012-07-16T18:42:04.013+05:30Sir,
Since your wife and daughter think that I mu...Sir,<br /><br />Since your wife and daughter think that I must belong to a different planet/realm where women are more decent, and since it seems so implausible for most of the commentators here to think of women as capable of kind or charitable deeds, I shall cite three examples from my life. I shall leave it to the readers to decide whether these women are worthy of my respect (and others' by the virtue of the deeds they did) or not. <br /><br />1. Circa April 2003, a ruthless Kerala summer when a vast majority of students in our college fell prey to the hepatitis A virus. It was bang in the middle of the exam season, and we heard everyday of some or the other student who had taken ill and was sent home. I had been feeling out of sorts since the beginning of the semester exams, and on the eve of the Electronics exam, I felt really sick...lethargic would be the right term. Even though I had heaps of revision left, I decided to take a short nap. When I didn't wake up from the nap even after an hour, my friend Sreedevi came and woke me up. I told her I couldn't care less whether I passed the exam or not, but she wouldn't leave it at that. So she asked me which portions I felt most anxious about in terms of a lack of adequate preparation, and proceeded to revise those portions right then by reading aloud from her book/explaining herself. After nearly two hours of this, I felt weak and queasy and the feeling wouldn't pass, so she stopped studying and went to the hostel kitchen, got the cook to make a home remedy of ginger and lime extract and gave it to me to help curb the nausea. The next day, the paper was thankfully and unexpectedly rather easy, so I finished it in record time and left the hall a full hour and a half before scheduled end. Sree was very anxious when she met me later on and kept asking me whether I had completed the exam and whether I had answered everything reasonably correctly. If I owe anyone the 80 odd marks I scored in that exam, it is her. Two days later when I ended up being hospitalized for jaundice, she was really sad that I would miss 2 of my exams; perhaps even more than me, because I was quite out of sorts and sick then, to honestly care about the exams. <br /><br />2. Both of the ladies I shall talk about next, helped me at a time when I was totally perplexed and didn't have any idea of what to expect. I was due to deliver my first baby on Sep 23rd, 2011, but he decided to arrive 11 days earlier. My own mother passed away 3 years ago, so my mother in law had agreed to come to town to help us out in the first few weeks. However, her arrival was scheduled only on the 16th of Sep, and I went into labour on the 12th. Any woman who has been through the experience would tell you that it's harrowing and anxiety ridden to say the least. To top it all, we (myself, my husband, father, brother, sister-in-law) had absolutely no idea on what to expect and how to take care of a newborn baby. My neighbour's mother was supposed to have returned to her native place that day, but on hearing this news, she postponed her trip by a couple of days. She came to the hospital and sat with me up until the time that they wheeled me to the OT, all the while comforting me and giving me back rubs. She is not related to me, and before that day, we had exchanged niceties upon seeing each other on the road; nothing more and nothing less to our relationship. But what she did for me that day, is something I shall never forget. <br /><br />Likewise, after Kenneth arrived, there cropped up the question of who would spend the night with me and baby. The hospital allowed just one person, and my husband was feeling too overwhelmed to pitch in as the sole helper. My cousin, whose second child was only 1 year and a few months old, gladly offered to do the honours. She spent the whole night awake and soothed the crying baby by carrying him around. She could have cited her toddler son as an excuse and we hadn't even thought of asking her for help, but she pitched in and did her best when we needed it the most.Sumithahttp://sumbit.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30819742.post-51699805670145396912012-07-16T13:08:52.571+05:302012-07-16T13:08:52.571+05:30The mother of a girl who is currently a pupil came...The mother of a girl who is currently a pupil came over to see me this morning, weeping over how badly her daughter has been harassed, bullied, cheated and reviled for years by many of her teachers, (female-) friends and friends' mothers, branded as a bad girl, where her only fault, so far as I can see with a teacher's eye, is that she is slightly more boisterous and inattentive, slightly less cunning and manipulative than most females are instinctively from a very early age. This woman has been savagely punishing her daughter for all her real and imagined faults, until she has been driven to near madness and started feeling she is really going wrong somewhere, and maybe she is overdoing it. She has even been told that her daughter is a 'polluting influence', and needs to see a psychiatrist. I was telling my daughter - herself an unusually strong-minded, outspoken female with a very sharp sense of right and wrong - how nightmarish her childhood might have been if her parents had listened to teachers, relatives and neighbours a little more. And of course, we have been discussing, in connection with this post, just how evil women can be, even to other women (my wife and daughter say <i>especially</i> to other women). There was this female teacher in one of the 'elite' schools in this town who, a few years ago, had savagely beaten up a child because the boy had committed the unpardonable crime of calling her 'Ma' in class: the papers were full of it. My friend Sumitha says she has met a lot of decent women. The response of my wife and daughter was 'She and we must be living on different planets'!<br /><br />At the same time, we don't need anyone's certificate to know we have our hearts in the right place. Unless some reader is seriously retarded, s/he cannot have missed the obvious fact that, despite all my ranting against the female of the species, I have all the time in the world for those who suffer, both the mother and the daughter in this instance (and I make bold to say I give them far more than most 'feminists' would: the mother said before leaving that not one female, either friend, relative, neighbour or daughter's teacher had given her a fraction of the sympathetic understanding and practical advice that she got from me today).Suvro Chatterjeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01027202980259279420noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30819742.post-88511327656967737252012-07-15T11:36:49.955+05:302012-07-15T11:36:49.955+05:30I am glad you wrote, JD, though, as you have yours...I am glad you wrote, JD, though, as you have yourself observed, the comment does not relate to my post, except very tangentially. I agree with you that we should look everywhere for every little sign of progress and hope, and yes, healthy looking girls going cheerily to school in rural areas is certainly good to see - at first glance. Alas, what do you find if you look at the same girls a few years down the line? Married and raising babies, that's all, even if they are not being seriously abused by the menfolk, and nothing more. Hell, even girls from 'good' urban families grow up to be little more than that; their so-called education gives them little more than bigger egos and a greater sense of entitlement to leisure, luxury and privilege. I often say a farmer's wife who tends to the fields and looks after her kids and housework singlehandedly contributes far more to society than the typical urban housewife, living off her husband and her maidservants, and at most doing some very trivial job at a hotel, airline, shopping mall or BPO... 'education' has hardly produced big achievers among women by the million, as it was once expected to do. I have made this observation once before. By achievers I mean not only tycoons and cabinet ministers but judges, IAS officers, real journalists (as opposed to those who write 'news' about the latest cosmetics), writers, real teachers, moviemakers, social activists and the like... some female reader has asked a friend 'But does he respect only big achievers?' to which my reply is 'Of course I do! Is respect so cheap that I must go about respecting every Tom, Dick and Harry or Mary, Jane and Elizabeth?' All you need to do is to read up a few earlier blogposts to find out about what kind of women I do respect...Kadambini Ganguly, first woman college graduate in the British Empire, had time enough to look after a flourishing medical practice and do politics and social work and fine handicrafts at home while raising eight children: I must respect her as well as all the typical college girls and fat, lazy, greedy, gossipy good-for-nothing housewives I see all around me?Suvro Chatterjeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01027202980259279420noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30819742.post-7940345665833490312012-07-14T22:30:25.244+05:302012-07-14T22:30:25.244+05:30Though this comment is not entirely related to the...Though this comment is not entirely related to the topic being discussed; the fairer sex being the only link, I would like to share the same.<br /><br />Due to work related travel, I frequently move between Chakradharpur and Chaibasa; two small towns in south Jharkhand. In route, amidst abundance of nature there are a few dotted tribal villages. (Birsa Munda, a legendary freedom-fighter was from this region).<br /><br />Well, if one happens to move in this route in the morning, one can finds girls of all ages cycling furiously on their way to schools. <br />It is one sight, one can choose to neglect; but if you consider the region you are in, the scene of uniform wearing girls, with shining eyes, and tinkling laughter moving earnestly towards school is a real heartening sight! I also found that athletics /archery and other sports are quite popular amongst girls here. They are encouraged by society, which again is quite unprecedented, considering the so called 'conservative' tribal customs.<br /><br />India, never seemed more diverse; where in girls of a village within 200 kms of our New Delhi are imposed all sorts of sanctions, and here in the jungles of Jharkhand, girls are studying/doing things of their choice!<br /><br />Well, being of the optimist sort, I did find the enthusiasm of the girls, cycling for far distances to reach their school, really infectious. I think, their determination in braving all weather conditions to go to school, itself will foster their sound character.<br /><br />I would also bring to light that this society which instills these habits in young girls is worth emulation and our adulation.<br /><br />There are still beacons of hope... maybe not solely concentrated in urban India, but in the unsung & obscure villages of India.<br /><br />I apologize, if the comment seems totally out of context, but couldn't stop myself writing about certain good things I observed in a very select section of our society.<br /><br />Regards.<br />Joydeep Mukherrjee<br />2002 BatchJMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09919351014123491497noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30819742.post-91422065809499043122012-07-14T20:00:58.685+05:302012-07-14T20:00:58.685+05:30http://indiatoday.intoday.in/story/bengal-urine-sh...http://indiatoday.intoday.in/story/bengal-urine-shocker-mother-denies-shock-treatment-claim/1/207892.html<br /><br />http://www.telegraphindia.com/1120713/jsp/bengal/story_15723506.jsp<br /><br />So the vile female warden makes the girl commit the horrifying act, the sick female principal supports the female warden (how they can be sitting their without being kicked out of the house I don't know)...and then I read a news report on gender bias at Patha Bhavan! Gender bias?!!! How infinitely sickening can people get. One female commits an atrocity, another female supports the same, and some dumb and mindless journalist spouts 'gender bias'(I would tell all of them to drink their own urine; I can see better and better how repressive punishment came about in times of civilizational crisis and mindlessness). Even animals don't behave this way. <br /><br />-----<br /><br />I read your comment and had to look up the news. <br /><br />And I can't help giving both Abhirup and Pupu a quiet round of applause for their comments. Apart from your comments for this post theirs win my vote. Abhirup for hammering hard and methodically, and Pupu for being very fine, calm and quiet...and for expressing her last bit because that's how I feel too, now when I'm middle-aged.Shilpihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03106170029106184978noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30819742.post-79359061715412870052012-07-14T17:18:55.667+05:302012-07-14T17:18:55.667+05:30Dear Shreshta,
I know just the type you mean. Jus...Dear Shreshta,<br /><br />I know just the type you mean. Just think of the recent incident at the Patha Bhavan girls' hostel at Shantiniketan - the woman warden forcing a little girl to lick her own urine - and you can see what I mean. It is a pity that the decent few among women (and I shall go on insisting that decent women are far, far fewer than decent men; men who act like that are perverts, women who do are 'normal'), instead of condemning the disgusting majority for bringing shame on their tribe, get angry with us men for pointing out all their disgusting shortcomings and pure badness...Suvro Chatterjeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01027202980259279420noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30819742.post-63169933568580954822012-07-14T14:12:44.874+05:302012-07-14T14:12:44.874+05:30Dear sir,
Few days ago when it was raining very h...Dear sir,<br />Few days ago when it was raining very heavily around 7:15 am and most of the students were fully wet after they reached the school our principal who unfortunately is a woman passed such a vulgar comment on the girl students that I now totally belive that most of the women know nothing other than gossiping and wearing immense makeup just to look "pretty".The male teachers of our school are far better than her.Most of the women are brainless and they like o talk watever nonsense come first in their mind without giving a second thought about it.shrestha palhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02066736648068869909noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30819742.post-8225293287904652792012-07-13T22:56:34.522+05:302012-07-13T22:56:34.522+05:30Pupu,
Many thanks, I needed that. As you know, qui...Pupu,<br />Many thanks, I needed that. As you know, quite a few females have been needling me lately, and we both know what they are worth, besides nuisance value, that is. <br /><br />Notice that not one comment writer has as yet said anything about what s/he felt after visiting the two blogs I had linked in the postscript to my post! Meanwhile some females have been telling me how 'men can also be bad', showing obviously that they have neither read nor understood a single line of anything in the blogs or of the numerous comments that have come in so far... we know, don't we, both of us, that this sort of female will come to our door whenever they need any kind of help and know perfectly well that no female is going to help them out?Suvro Chatterjeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01027202980259279420noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30819742.post-7354049983932461572012-07-13T20:47:44.276+05:302012-07-13T20:47:44.276+05:30Dear Baba,
I have spent nearly twelve years in an...Dear Baba,<br /><br />I have spent nearly twelve years in an all-girls environment, and I could not agree more with this post and all the comments that have come in. Abhirupda has nicely summed up most of the things that I would have said. I will only add a few snippets from my personal experience.<br /><br />A very common (and very hypocritical) stereotype about women is that they are more kind and compassionate and sympathetic than men. In fact,nine out of ten women are sadistic to a large extent. They enjoy watching and giving others hurt, especially other members of their own sex. I have seen your male students stay back and help a friend with his cycle in the heavy rain. I know from experience that 99% girls would run off and leave their so-called 'best-friends' wherever there is the possibility of their facing the slightest personal inconvenience. Boys will help you and make no fuss about it. When a girl does so much as lend you a book or a pen, she will make sure that you remember it and pay back many times over for many months.<br /><br />Girls also seem to think that mindless giggling and screaming and cracking vulgar jokes (it is odd how only boys are blamed for making dirty jokes, and girls go blameless) is the only definition of fun. I am a loner by nature, but the few friends I have are either boys (dadas really, boys of my age are either too scared or too uninterested to be friends with me), or girls who are very non-girlie, so that we often sit and mock at our female classmates. <br /><br />You are, of course, very charitable, and so you insist that the girls are not entirely to be blamed; that their upbringing is responsible to a large extent for making them the creatures that they are. That might be true, but I do think that it is strange how only the girls seem to take in all the superstitious nonsense that their mothers feed them, and boys are able to shake them off much better. If only these girls realize that they are either silly or disgusting, the girls of the next generation will hopefully be an improved version of females, not ones who make you want to either puke or run for your life. I am glad that you have decided to give up trying to treat these females as humans. I have learnt that at fifteen, and if only you had made this decision a few decades earlier, you would have been a much less sad person today.<br /><br />PupuUrbi Chatterjeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10126592310054862869noreply@blogger.com